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Race, crime and politics in Atlanta

One couple’s story of hazing and heartbreak


 

By Stephanie Ramage

   





On Jan. 4, Nehemiah Haire stood in the bone-chilling cold and waited to be let into the Atlanta Civic Center for Mayor Kasim Reed’s inauguration.

    As he stood there, just as he was to stand in line to speak at public meeting after public meeting over the following month, he was the owner of several properties, one of them his own home, slated to go into foreclosure this March. While the entire country has seen a wave of foreclosures in the past few years, Nehemiah and his partner Tamara Toth blame their losses largely on two things with which Atlanta has a unique connection: racial unrest and crime.

    Since moving to the city in the late ’90s, the Ohio natives have buried a child and have resurrected four rundown houses in what they call “Atlanta’s secret neighborhoods” in the area between Cascade Road and Campbellton Road only to see those houses robbed of every countertop, scrap of wiring or inch of tile. They estimate they have lost more than $1 million. They believe that an inadequate police force and an indifferent city government led by ineffective elected leaders are to blame.

    Tamara is a chemical engineer and Nehemiah, until recently, was a contractor.  They met at Ohio University. She was from Cleveland, he was from Youngstown. She was studying chemical engineering, he was studying sports management. She is white and he is black. Back home in Ohio, their interracial relationship didn’t seem like a big deal. They didn’t think it would be a big deal in the town Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. called home, either. Surely here, they thought, they could build a good life for themselves and the children they dreamed of having. 

    In 1999, when Nehemiah found a well-built fixer-upper in a predominantly black neighborhood on Eastridge Road, he admitted it was going to take a lot of work, but he was ready for the challenge. They moved in and he transformed the place, building a trellis for wisteria, tiling a walkway, and converting the attic into a playroom for the hoped-for kids. 

Tamara discovered she was pregnant. 

They purchased three other houses, another one on Eastridge, one on Westridge, and one on nearby Harbin Road, to rent out. Nehemiah figured the area, part of Neighborhood Planning Unit R, was on the upswing

    But the neighborhood was not what it seemed.

    It was not merely home to older residents living on fixed incomes, he says. It was also home to their younger relatives, who were hooked on crack and willing to steal to support their habits. And the man next door was a convicted child molester. 


    The neighbor hadn’t been caught when Nehemiah and Tamara first moved in, so nobody knew. And there was a day care center right around the corner. How was it possible that, given Georgia’s tough law prohibiting convicted sex offenders from living in close proximity to establishments that serve minors, a sex offender could live there? But he did.

 “I HOPE YOUR BABY DIES LIKE THE FIRST ONE DID”


    When they found out about their neighbor, Nehemiah called the cops (including the sheriff's department) about enforcing the law. Nothing happened, aside from the couple letting the neighbors know they knew about the sex offender living in their midst. The offender’s family, they say, began collecting feces from the four dogs they kept on a side porch and throwing it into Nehemiah and Tamara’s driveway. Nehemiah reported the way the dogs were being kept, and the novel use of their feces, to the police, animal control, and code enforcement, without result.

    Soon after, the couple's son was born. Less than a month later, he died. His was one of those mysterious infant deaths that fall into a wide range of medical categories. Did he “fail to thrive,” as doctors describe it, because of prenatal stress? Tamara isn’t sure.

    “I was so sad, I don’t know if what the doctors were saying even really sunk in with me,” she says.

    That was 2003, the year their trail of reports in the Atlanta Police Department’s Zone 4 begins. In December 2003, Nehemiah was keeping an eye on a neighbor’s house while the neighbor was out of town. It was broken into. The APD described the incident as “damage to property,” and classifies it as “forced entry.” Nehemiah talked to the cops, reset the alarm and fixed the busted door.

    Meanwhile, Tamara had become pregnant again, just three months after the loss of their first child. The black women who lived next door—the wife and daughter of the convicted sex offender—would stand in their yard and harangue her.

    “They would chant, ‘I hope your baby dies like the first one did,’” she says. “They said they didn’t think it was right for a white woman to have a black man’s baby and they didn’t want us living there.”

    A police report dated April 2004 shows Nehemiah called the cops on the same neighbors’ adult son, who had threatened to get his gun and was “yelling over to the victims that he was going to kill them and their unborn baby. … The victims [Nehemiah and Tamara] stated that this has been going on for a couple of days now.” The man’s mother, according to the report, “stated that all she was doing was standing on her porch removing dog poop.”

    Tamara refused to continue living in the house, and the couple moved to the house they owned on Harbin Road. Their intention was to rent out the house on Eastridge, but no one reliable wanted to live next to a sex offender. They felt obligated to inform the would-be renters, hoping that someone without a child wouldn’t mind, but it was a factor more often than not.

    In 2005, one of Nehemiah’s tenants stole his credit card information and used it to pay utility bills. He filed charges, and the tenants left in the middle of the night. Now, no one was renting any of his properties.

    Two years later, the couple had two children: a girl, born a year after the death of their first child, and a boy. One afternoon in July 2007, Tamara smelled something unpleasant in the laundry room in the basement of their home. She found a rank-smelling pair of underwear that didn’t look like the kind Nehemiah usually wore. She confronted him, and he was as puzzled as she was. He’d never seen them before. But they had both, from time to time, had the creepy feeling that someone was in the house with them, or watching them.

    Later that month, they discovered a man in their home who had apparently broken in and used their laundry room several times before. Startled, Nehemiah grabbed a mop and beat the man before calling the police. According to APD reports, when the cops arrived, the man had wounds on his head, arms, legs and back. He was, they told Nehemiah, possibly the same man who would occasionally break into houses in the area and stand naked at the foot of women’s beds. He was fairly harmless, they said.

   The next year was the one that broke Tamara and Nehemiah.

    Police reports dated February, March, April, August and September 2008 detail a string of burglaries that claimed basically everything, including kitchen sinks, from their three rental properties on Eastridge and Westridge, as well as from their home on Harbin Road. 

   The reports list “PVC piping, water heater, drywall, electrical wires and outlets, ceiling fixtures, insulation and drainpipes, carpet, padding, ductwork, doors, mirrors, floors, furnace, cabinets, countertops, sink, faucet, showerhead …” as items damaged or stolen from Nehemiah’s property.

    A window was also stolen. The neighbor who bought it off the neighbor who stole it identified the seller to Atlanta Police, who arrested the thief on a Fulton County warrant for another, unrelated crime. 

    Over and over again, the police didn’t see the point in taking fingerprints, or said that conditions were not conducive to getting clear prints. The police did not pursue a warrant to search a house in the neighborhood, although eyewitnesses pointed it out as the stowaway house for the loot.

    Nehemiah doesn’t hold the beat officers responsible. They, after all, were running from call to call. He would, however, like to file a formal complaint against Maj. Moses Perdue, who was commander of Zone 4 for much of the duration of the couples’ tribulations. The trouble is, that complaint would have to be filed with the Office of Professional Standards (OPS)—the unit assigned to investigating cops accused of not doing their jobs. And thanks to the Jan. 5 reorganization of the police department under Acting Chief George Turner, OPS is now under the command of Maj. Perdue. 

     A list of questions about this story from The Sunday Paper to Perdue and to Zone 4’s new commander, Maj. Khalfani Yabuku, were not answered as of press time.
 

THE REAL COST OF CRIME


    Each time the houses were stripped, the couple would file insurance claims to replace the stolen items. The replacements would then be stolen, too. Eventually, says Tamara, their insurer, Nationwide, dropped them. They were, for all intents and purposes, uninsurable because of the area’s off-the-chain crime and the city’s apparent inability to do anything about it.

    Bank of America, their lender, began providing insurance for the properties in which its money was invested. The cost of bank-backed insurance, says Tamara, is four times as much as the insurance they previously had with Nationwide. Already drowning in debt from financing rental property no one would rent, their expenses climbed even more. They see this as a direct result of the city’s crime problem.

    State Insurance Commissioner John Oxendine (who is running for governor) can see the relationship between crime, insurance and foreclosure, too.

    “If you have a lot of claims as a result of crime, this is seen by the insurance companies as an increased risk,” says Oxendine. “They are essentially saying, ‘Wait a minute, this is not what we thought we were getting into.’

     He adds, "Public safety is the No. 1 responsibility of local government, and when they don’t provide it adequately, it affects everything. A bank is not going to loan money on a property where it thinks its investment is at high risk. There are parts of South Atlanta where it is very hard to get a loan, and it is the same with insurance.”

    Oxendine says Atlanta’s poor neighborhoods are doubly victimized, both by crime and by its cost.

    “People who live where I live in Gwinnett County and in north Fulton County will likely have lower insurance rates than someone in Southwest Atlanta, because when you look at the crime figures, there is a big difference,” he says. 

    Tamara and Nehemiah have noticed other disparities. In a letter to city officials, Tamara writes, “I have lived in Southwest Atlanta and in North Atlanta and I can attest to the fact that the services provided to the Southside are substandard. The grocery stores carry expired food, the schools have low graduation rates, the crime is high and the expectations of the community are low. Until the City of Atlanta is willing to address the racial divide in the city, the complacency of the residents and the lack of equal services, the city will not move forward.”

    She blames racial resentment for much of their hardship. Nehemiah agrees, but thinks part of the problem is that people in his neighborhood are related to people who work for the city, whereas he and Tamara are outsiders with no political strings to pull, aside from their votes.

    “They are the same people who have been there for 30 years,” he says.

     Nehemiah and Tamara have tried to be part of the solution. In January 2009, Tamara attended a neighborhood meeting where mayoral candidate Lisa Borders spoke. Tamara liked what she heard, so she e-mailed Borders and offered her help in the neighborhood. An aide called and said they’d be touch, but Tamara never heard from Borders or her staff again.

    By mid-2009, Nehemiah had stopped reporting thefts, although the thefts hadn't stopped. There was no point that he could see in calling police and going through the hassle of making a report when, to his way of thinking, they never did anything. There was no point in replacing what was stolen, because it would only get stolen again. The properties were broken into and damaged over and over again. When the couple failed to scrape up money to pay for repairs, the neighbors, possibly still rankled by Nehemiah’s earlier attempts to have the sex-offender law enforced, reported them to the city’s code enforcement office. 

    Fortunately for Nehemiah, just as code enforcement didn’t do anything when he reported some neighbors for having a construction trash bin in their yard for 10 years, he says the office also failed to do anything regarding the reports against him.

    Then, in June 2009, Nehemiah was arrested. He had been painting over a vandalized wall at the house on Westridge when he heard someone pounding on a window on the back of the house, as if they were trying to break it. He went to the window and saw a neighborhood crackhead standing outside with a two-by-four in his hands. The crackhead said he’d left a bag in the house the night before.
 
When Nehemiah heard the man admit to breaking in, he went outside and beat him up. The man went down the street to his family’s house and called the cops, who arrested Nehemiah for simple battery. The police did not pursue trespassing charges against the man, because he claimed he sometimes worked for Nehemiah. Nehemiah strongly denies the man has worked for him.

    The charge against Nehemiah was eventually dismissed by the courts. But it’s on his record, and has cost him time and money.

    About six months later, at the Atlanta Civic Center, Nehemiah finally got to meet the man he had voted for in hopes of a better city administration, Mayor Kasim Reed. He shook his hand and said quickly, before Reed moved on, “I’m with you and willing to do my part.”

    That was a little more than a month ago. In the interim, Council President Ceasar Mitchell facilitated a meeting between the couple and their City Council representative, Cleta Winslow. This did not reassure them. Over the years, they say, they have talked with Winslow many times without result.

    On that day in mid-January, Tamara took a deep breath and said tensely, looking Winslow in the eye: “I am not happy with my council representation.”

“I understand,” Winslow replied.

    Nothing was accomplished.

    Tamara and Nehemiah’s home and other properties will go into foreclosure in March. Nehemiah’s business has failed and he has turned to his hobby of making custom stained glass for support. Tamara and the kids no longer live in Atlanta. SP
Rating:

"According to APD reports, when the cops arrived, the man had wounds on his head, arms, legs and back. He was, they told Nehemiah, possibly the same man who would occasionally break into houses in the area and stand naked at the foot of women’s beds. He was fairly harmless, they say."

Harmless??? Occasionally break into women's houses???? What????

Please tell me the APD has been misquoted. Because if they were not, there is something horrifically wrong. Breaking into an occupied dwelling, stripping, and terrorizing women is serious, dangerous, illegal behavior. Sex offenders who escalate to that level are anything but harmless, and if the D.A. is failing to prosecute such sex crimes according to state sentencing guidelines, then the D.A. is failing to do his job.

If the police are not prioritizing the capture of such an offender, they are essentially allowing women to be sexually assaulted.

Flashing in public spaces is already a day job for rapists. Once you enter someone's home, you have raised the stakes considerably. The databases are littered with allegedly "harmless" offenders like this who were actually serial rapists, or serial rapists in training, men whose priors were for such "minor" sex crimes.

Nobody in law enforcement or the courts should be minimizing such behavior. Not once, let alone multiple times.

Tina Trent
Sunday, February 07, 2010 at 3:34 PM


While the police may be at fault for not doing thier job properly, what about Nehemiah? This guy is not a 'sob story', save for the unfortunate death of thier child. If this guys properties are going into foreclosure, it's not because of the neighborhood or the constabulatory, it's another doofus going to 'strike it rich' in the real estate market. BUying 4 houses when you cannot afford 2 is dumb. I personally know friends in this exact situation, who took advantage of the mortgage brokers and agents loosening of the industry standards in the early 2000's and now sit on numerous houses they cant rent or sell.

recently the AJC resident hippie Carrie Teegarden wrote another such scribe about a woman who refinanced to get out of debt she incurred, only to find out she was too dumb to do the simple math and read the fine print.

While there are many deficiencies in the Police, this article seems like another Sunday Paper sneak attack on the police, accusing them of negligence and forgiving the bad decisions made by the protagonist.

ELF
Thursday, February 11, 2010 at 9:13 AM


ELF,

"Another Sunday Paper sneak attack on the police"? There is no such thing. "Another"? WTF are you talking about? You obviously do not read the Sunday Paper or you would know that we--and me specifically--are much more likely to be accused of over-defending the cops than of "attacking" them.

We didn't attack them. Nehemiah himself says he doesn't hold the rank-and-file cops responsible for his problems, but he does blame the lack of leadership in the APD's Zone 4 at the time of these events.

If you'd read the story, you'd know that. -- Stephanie Ramage

Stephanie Ramage
Thursday, February 11, 2010 at 2:13 PM


ridiculous. I certainly read the article, and clearly the implication is that Nehemiah's situation is because the police did not 'protect' the 4 investments he should not have bought in the first place. Now, the SP has made very important points about the police, as I am an avid reader. I have read and agreed with you about pay policies, and how we do not grow our own leadership here and that officers transferring here cause issues with the existing staff. I also agree that at the top levels there is incomptance and corruption. But lets re read what you wrote:

"Over and over again, the police didn’t see the point in taking fingerprints, or said that conditions were not conducive to getting clear prints."

Now, unless Maj Purdue specifically told the 'rank and file' police officers NOT to do this, then most likely what happened is the 'rank and file' ( meaning responding beat officers and detectives) decided not to look for prints themselves. As a resident of Grant park, and a owner of a rental property, I have had my car broken into and my house vandalized. I have been told by the 'rank and file' that they weren't going to take prints or chase down leads, and I understood because in 1998 I would rather have them using that effort on the beat to get the neighborhood to a better place. I suspect that the 'rank and file' in Zone 4 have thier hands full already. I didn't whine about it or complain to the Major of my zone. I just accepted it as part of the deal with moving into a transitional neighborhood. I didn't buy 3 more properties in Grant Park,because I could not afford it, and it seemed dumb. Just as the police had thier hands full, I had mine full keeping my property and family safe. I wouldn't bitch about an insurance company not insuring my houses (when I decided to overpurchase numerous properties) either.

So who's the bad guy here? The insurance company? The police? Or the mortgage broker that let this mental giant own 4 properties without enough $$$ to keep them watertight?

Yes, by all means, the bad guy must be the zone commander, because he didn't drop everything he had going on and put CSI Atlanta to stop crackheads from breaking into properties this guy shouldn't have had in the first place.

Take this for example: "The police did not pursue a warrant to search a house in the neighborhood, although eyewitnesses pointed it out as the stowaway house for the loot. " Ever tried to get a judge to sign a warrant to bust into a private residence on the 'eyewitness' account? Because I can tell you the only way that's going to happen is with video. What happens to the zone commander when they bust into that house and the 'loot' is not there? Then it really hits the fan. The shooting of an elderly woman on a warrant served by hearsay reverberates today and has taken down Red Dog. You think Major Purdue want to put his a$$ and career on the line? You wouldn't do it either.

Furthmore, the 'racial' element of this story is hearsay. Tamara uses the old 'the neighbors hated me because I'm a yankee and married a black man, and they all have pull in City Hall.' This is borderline assinine. I suspect the truth is far from what was implied in the article.

ELF
Friday, February 12, 2010 at 12:52 PM


E.L.F.,

You seem to be saying that residents should blame themselves when the insurance companies think they've been broken into too much and drop their coverage. Is that right? That's sure sounds like what you're saying.

You write: "I suspect that the 'rank and file' in Zone 4 have thier hands full already. I didn't whine about it or complain to the Major of my zone. I just accepted it as part of the deal with moving into a transitional neighborhood."

So, people who move to affordable neighborhoods in Atlanta and then sacrifice their blood, sweat and tears to bring up the property value ought to just bend over and take it, right? Isn't that what you're saying? You're saying that when people move into a "transitional" neighborhood, they're asking for it.

"Transitional" is an interesting word choice. People who use it usually don't acknowledge that it's people like Nehemiah and Tamara who determine which way that transition's going to go. You can vilify the "gentrifiers" all you like, without them, any city dies.

You accuse Nehemiah and Tamara of "whining" about their insurance dropping them and then you brag that when you were victimized by criminals, you didn't whine you just accepted it. You're proud of yourself for giving up?

You write: "I have been told by the 'rank and file' that they weren't going to take prints or chase down leads, and I understood because in 1998 I would rather have them using that effort on the beat to get the neighborhood to a better place."

So, in your opinion, solving crime doesn't make the neighborhood a better place. That's certainly a novel approach to crime fighting. According to you, the police shouldn't gather evidence with the intent of solving a crime, they should just patrol the neighborhood.

The "racial element is hearsay"? Not to anyone who's ever lived in Atlanta.

--Stephanie Ramage

Stephanie Ramage
Friday, February 12, 2010 at 5:02 PM


puh-leeze. I moved into GP when it was a transitional neghborhood, and spent plenty of 'blood sweat and tears' myself. What sets me apart from your couple, and a point you seem to ignore completely, is that I didn't buy 3 more properties, hoping to 'cash in' later. Nowhere in your article or comments do you address this issue. And it is a big one, one that contributes to our locaL economy and police. The housing bubble has stranded plenty of folks like Nehemiah.

Riddle me this: why should the insurancer companies be villified for upping coverage rates for them? If they had ONE house, there would be no problem. They would have THIER house, and insurance would cover it well. But, you are being unfair to ask any insurance company to extend coverage to 4 houses in a abad neigborhood. The insurance company did not sign 4 mortgages. Nehemiah did.

Furthermore, you still did not address the 'rank and file' issue. I accepted my car getting broken into for the change in the ashtray as a part of living in a changing neighborhood. I didn't get mad that the police werent taking prints off the door handle, when 2 days before a home invasion left 2 dead down the street ( this happened in 1998). Frankly, I replaced the window of the car, and pulled it in the backyard, and hoped it would happen again. It's part of the deal when you decide to be an 'urban pioneer' as we were called shortly after the Olympics when we moved to Grant Park. There was one bar/restaurant in East Atlanta, the Heaping Bowl. NOw the entire village is 'gentrified'. Ask anyone that has lived there for more then a decade about thier experience. Maybe you could enlighten us as to where your cushy digs are? All my neighbors had issues with thier properties. You know what we did? We did not complain about the police, we started our own patrol. Everybody kicked in 23$ a month, and we hired protection. You say that your 'for the rank and file' and in your comments, you clearly state that the 'rank and file' is not 'doing thier job'.

Your argument is weak at best. Dont wanna get robbed? Dont walk through Underground Atlanta at 2 am with 100$ bills hanging out of your pants. Similarly, if you dont want insurance companies to screw you, DONT buy more houses then you can afford. This kinda crap hurts neighborhoods alot more after the properties become deteriorated and foreclosed upon, and brings everybodies property values down.

I'm sure this doesn't happen in Dunwoody, but it has a real effect on upcoming neighborhoods.

ELF
Saturday, February 13, 2010 at 9:58 AM


I never said the rank and file weren’t doing their jobs. Yet, you, in your comment, claim that I “state clearly the rank and file weren’t doing their jobs.” I never said that. I said Nehemiah wants to file a complaint about the former zone major. Majors aren't rank-and-file.

It is also obvious to everyone else, who didn’t fail to register a score in reading comprehension, that Nehemiah and Tamara are not house-flippers as you try to paint them. How is it that these brilliant and intrepid readers could have garnered this elusive gem of wisdom while you missed it?
Because I did state quite clearly that they lived in one house, rented two of them out, and the third, though I didn’t say so here, but did in a column, was inhabited by Nehemiah’s sister. Not one of those homes was bought to be sold. They were bought to be maintained. Hence, despite your bizarre nastiness in twisting what I wrote, it is clear to the other readers, whose erudition apparently eclipses your own, that Nehemiah and Tamara are not house-flippers.
I confess that I only skimmed your latest secretion because I can see that I will end up repeating and performing exegesis on the story line-for-line to help you grasp it. In fact, when one is so completely wrong about what one has read, there only can be one of four reasons:

1—You truly do not have the mental capacity to understand what you have read. I doubt this since it wasn’t exactly a doctoral thesis in social systems, but it’s one explanation.

2—The reader has some personal dog in the fight. This seems likely given the many comparisons you have made to yourself and your own experiences in your comments here. Either you feel that you suffered at the hands of criminals and you never got a story written about you and you’re jealous, or you think that you could only afford one house and you’re jealous that someone else had the credit rating and down-payment to buy several. I find it odd that you want to zero in on the fact they owned more than one house. Do you think the government should limit how many houses people can buy? I happen to know a police officer who owns two he rents out. Would it make you feel better if you knew Nehemiah’s houses only cost about $35,000 each, so it’s not like he is this careless gambler you seem to want to paint him as? Did you notice that he was a contractor? Does that, you think, have any pertinence to his purchase of old houses?

3—You want to make yourself feel better about your own losses by offering up an veiled ontological argument about how life is suffering. People do this all the time. I cover crime and neighborhoods that are beaten down by it, and I love the residents who speak out and the cops who support them. But loving the people in the neighborhoods means admitting the truth of their lack of control. They cannot control everything. You imply that people who are burgled are somehow at fault and yet, you simultaneously posit that if they would just accept it, you would find no fault with them. Those two positions seem to be in conflict. On one hand, you say they are at fault and on the other you say they should accept what has happened to them. Position 1 says “They are in control,” while Position 2 claims they should accept what has happened—i.e., they are not in control. Do you see the gaping abyss in what passes for your logic?
Similarly, loving the good cops means accepting the fact that there are some bad ones, there are some lazy ones from the brass on down. I am not going to offer up some ridiculous, ignorant absolutist stance that they are either all good or all bad. There are good cops, god bless them, and we need to keep them, the good cops we have are even more valuable than the hundreds we need.

4—It’s not the message that makes you so obviously bitter and angry, it’s the messenger. What normal human being exerts the amount of energy you have exerted in slinging shit at two people who’ve lost everything, two people whom you don’t even know? They are real people, they read this website. And you have gone after them with such nastiness that I would be within my rights to delete your posts. How could anyone be that angry at this couple? It makes no sense. Quite often when a reader attacks my stories and the people in them, and does the strange contradictory dance around what the story actually says, distorting in your comments what I have said, I find that it’s me the reader really finds offensive. The reason a reader—you—would sling so much shit and fail to make any of it stick is because your real target is me.

I think you need to examine what it is about me you find so extremely objectionable, and maybe sit quietly for a while and probe why it is that you would A) Feel obligated to take an indirect approach in your attack on me although this indirect approach has so hampered your effectiveness, and B) What it is that you really want to do about crime. You are exhibiting an anger far out of proportion to anything this story would have merited, which indicates to me that you probably have some repressed will regarding either what I represent to you—maybe you hate women, maybe you wanted to be a reporter but nobody took you seriously, maybe you feel more people ought to listen to you and what you say, maybe you feel the world has spun out of your control and this is the only way you have of exerting any control at all—or what the topic of crime represents to you. For this last, we have one sad clue: You share anecdotes about your own experiences then admit that you just accepted what happened to you; you are clearly angry that someone else did not choose the same path of acceptance. So, I think you are very angry with yourself for not doing more about your own situation. You seem to want people to admire your stoicism (like when you said "I didn't go whining to the zone major") but maybe since no one else recognized your stoicism you're beginning to think, deep down inside, that it wasn't stoicism, it was surrender. Forgive yourself and you may find that you don't feel the need to castigate strangers who chose a different path.

Okay, next time I’m going to charge you for the counseling.

Also, I’m not going to allow you to continue beating up on two private citizens. You post anything else that smacks of an attack on them and it will be deleted. Also, I’m in the middle of a lovely St. Val’s weekend, if you come back on here expecting to play more of your game with me, you’re only going to be playing with yourself.

If I’m the target, call me. 404.974.3813 or email me at stephanieramage@sundaypaper.com, but stop posting poison about a family that has been through far too much already.

--Stephanie Ramage

Stephanie Ramage
Saturday, February 13, 2010 at 6:10 PM


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